Don’t fuck with me
This is great. You were very mature and explicit, as well as helpful in the ways that you could be. I don’t think you could have handled this any better than you did. 4 for you, Glen Coco.
I wish I could have stood up for myself in this way when I was a teenager
Threatening suicide to get what you want isn’t “borderline” abusive, it is abusive.
Men who do this have a very high risk of murdering whomever they’re trying to guilt trip when the guilt trip eventually stops working.
ironically hes joked about killing me before
I could never of been that sure of myself and protective of my own health when I was 14. What you did is wonderful and you should be incredibly proud of yourself.
This is very important, everyone. Also, if your partner ever threatens to hurt themselves, either because they, “feel so bad that they made you upset,” or for any reason, that’s abuse. They’re trying to manipulate you into not saying you’re upset with their behavior. “I love them, and I don’t want them to be hurt because of me, so I shouldn’t speak up, even though they hurt my feelings.” That’s a perfect example of emotional manipulation and guilt tripping you. If they threaten that they may die- either from suicide or a, “broken heart,” if you leave them, that’s abuse. You shouldn’t have to live in fear of your partner hurting themself of killing themself just because you want out of a relationship. If they don’t respect your choices, or especially if they don’t respect you, leave them. It’s not your fault.
Fourteen year old me is in freakin’ AWE.